How long should sex last?

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How long should sex last? Is there a secret number or time frame?
According to popular beliefs, sex is supposed to last about half an hour or more, however many men are self-conscious about finishing too soon. Media influences like Hollywood movies, magazines and porn has led to the belief that women enjoy (or require) extended sex sessions.

Reality is that the average man lasts about two minutes or less. This might not sound like a very long time but most women don’t seem to have any complaints as long as they can get off as well. The problem with a short sex time frame lies entirely with men and their desire to last longer.

If you’d like to last longer in bed, check out our tips and tricks.

Kegel exercises: Pelvic exercises have been shown to improve ejaculation by five-fold. To perform these exercises, locate and isolate the muscles you use to control your urine flow. Then squeeze and release these muscles rhythmically. Build the amount you can do each time, and vary the rhythm and pattern.  After doing this for while, you will notice that you have more control over your sexual response as well as your bladder.

Change how you think about sex: Most men and women think of sex as a means to an end – getting an orgasm and that’s it. Yet, it doesn’t have to be. Sex is more than just an orgasm – it’s a sensory experience and it’s also about the connection, intimacy, pleasure, and passion. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to last an x amount in bed. Instead, think about her, how she’s feeling, and how you’re feeling. Even if you reach orgasm, it doesn’t mean that the whole experience is over. You can continue with passion and try to get there again.

Be healthy: A good erection is the result of healthy blood flow, so make sure you keep your circulation flowing. Get active, hit the gym, and stay away from cigarettes. Eat a healthy diet and don’t abuse alcohol.

Masturbate more often: You can teach yourself to last longer by masturbating more often and getting more in touch with your sexual responses. As you start to stimulate yourself, stop before you reach the point of no return (an orgasm). Give yourself time to calm down, then begin stimulating yourself back up again and stopping before release. Do this a couple of times until you gain more control over your sexual release and you learn what your point of return is.

Author: drmaxmccullen

When Max McCullen first read Alfred Kinsey’s landmark book, Sexual Behavior In the Human Male, he began contemplating why so little is known about human sexuality. Since its publication in 1948 that body of knowledge has grown marginally. Why do we think about sex all the time? How much does sex really influence our behavior? And why do we still know so little about it? He completed undergraduate studies at University of the Pacific and The University of London and then his research led him to the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. IASHS was founded by Kinsey’s research assistant, Wardell Pomeroy. His initial curiosity soon evolved into a passion, which drove him to acquire his Doctorate of Education in Human Sexuality and Gender Studies. In 2004 Dr. Max began working for GlaxoSmithKline Pharmaceuticals (GSK), one of the largest pharmaceutical companies worldwide. This experience contributed to his understanding of medical treatments for male sexual dysfunction. He became familiar with how Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis function on a biological level and their social implications. His expertise naturally transitioned into him working with some of the most prestigious Urology offices in Southern California. These doctors and passionate medical personal, illustrated firsthand the impact treatment of male sexual dysfunction can have on patient care and their overall well being. This experience made him yearn for more direct contact with patients in a clinical setting. So after GSK he worked with Boston Medical Group (BMG), an international, clinic based organization, comprised of board certified Urologists and other specialties. BMG focuses on low libido, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and testosterone replacement therapy. With BMG, Dr. Max was not only their spokesperson doing radio interviews and lecturing but worked as the physician liaison connecting patients with doctors for treatment. He also worked as a consultant for University Specialty Urologicals, based in San Diego, meeting with Urologists all over the west coast to train them on various treatments for men and women's sexual health issues, including hormone replacement therapy. During this time he also hosted online webinars for patients with questions; he also has a written and video blog series and does private consultation for patients. Dr. Max McCullen brings a historical knowledge of the human sexuality field together with the reailties of living in a digital age. “The issues that confronted our elders in the 50’s and 60’s are different today - but no more impactful. Where they were learning about their sexuality and beginning to embark into the sexual revolution we are over exposed to the commodification of sex. This makes the navigation of sex and emotional intimacy difficult” Dr. Max McCullen

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